Feeling good at 40


Feeling confident as we age

The fact that my body is now 40 years old is not something to be ashamed of, not something to hide or fix but it is a wonderful palace that I live in. My body is my home in this lifetime and I plan on enjoying it.

Having been around the block in regards to body confidence and finally made my peace I am truly looking forward to the next 40 years because it will not be filled with shame, self-doubt, or worry about what anyone else thinks about me or my body. It is none of their business!

Being body confident means something totally different to me now than even a few years ago. Body confidence to me was always about looking your best so people would think the best of you. It was about trying to be a certain weight. Because being a teenager in the ’90s was all about being thin and thin meant being happy!

Body confidence now is about having an amazing connection with myself. I must be who I am regardless of how I look and regardless of what I weigh. Body confidence is about the relationship I have with myself and my body.

It has nothing to do with anyone else and I have stopped looking to outside sources for my validation and happiness. Yes, I still love to wear my beautiful clothes but now I wear them to make me happy.

I can hear you asking how I got to this place of body confidence. Well, the answer is self-acceptance and kindness.

Our bodies change every day, none of us have the body we had 10 years ago let alone last year. Aging is part of life and it happens to us all no matter what expensive face cream we use! In order to start being confident at any age, we have to accept where we are right now. Looking back and longing for the body we had in our 20’s is no good to us because we’ll never have that back. If we constantly measure ourselves against something in the past we are setting ourselves up for failure. Comparison is the thief of joy as the saying goes so whether you are comparing yourself to others or to your younger self it is not serving you. By doing this you will be chasing happiness that could be yours right now at this moment.

Here are my tips for being confident as we get older:

1. Write down all of your achievements 

– having done this myself I am blown away by how much I have achieved. You will be surprised when you start to really think how much stuff you have forgotten!

2. Develop an open mindset 

– when we have an open mindset we can start to learn new things and have new adventures. Life is for learning and you are never too old to learn. “Never stop learning because life never stops teaching”.

3. Update your image

Change up your look, change your hair or update your wardrobe this can give you an instant confidence boost.

4. Move your body

Our bodies love to move and find out how yours likes to move – is it dancing, pilates, yoga, or walking. Whatever it prefers, just keep moving.

5. Keep up the positive self-talk

Don’t join in when your friends start talking badly about their bodies you steer the conversation to a more positive area. It is very easy to get sucked in when others are talking but don’t let it. Stay with the positive!

6. Self-care 

Looking after your well-being inside and out will always help you feel confident and your body will thank you for it. Put yourself on top of the list.

7. Set some boundaries

This is also a form of self-care. Get away from people who are draining your energy or making you feel bad. Think about the consequence of saying yes all the time.

If you would like some help to feel confident in your own body then take a look at how I can help you.


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *